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It is common to arrive without clarity. Not knowing what you need yet is not an obstacle to the work. Very often, it is where the work begins.

People find themselves here when something feels heavy but hard to name. When relationships keep activating familiar patterns. When holding oneself together has become exhausting. When strategies that once made sense are now costing too much.

There is no expectation that you arrive knowing the right category or format.

Orientation can happen within the work itself, not only before it.

Individual therapy is a space for queer people whose ways of coping developed early, in response to environments that required adaptation rather than safety — as part of longer-term therapeutic work.

People often come carrying chronic shame or a quiet sense of personal inadequacy. Anxiety that lives in the body. Shutdown, numbness, or emotional exhaustion. A constant need to monitor oneself in relation to others. Difficulty trusting closeness, even when it is wanted.

These are not treated here as symptoms to eliminate. They are understood as meaningful responses to context.

How the work takes shape The work is relational and experiential. Attention is paid not only to what is spoken about, but to what happens in contact.

This means slowing down rather than analyzing from a distance.

Noticing bodily responses, emotions, impulses, and pauses.

Working with moments of closeness, hesitation, or withdrawal as they arise.

Naming context and power. Naming minority stress when it is present.

The aim is not correction or optimization. It is the development of greater coherence, choice, and internal stability.

When this may not be the right place This form of individual therapy may not be suitable if what you are looking for is rapid techniques or symptom management without relational depth.

If you expect neutrality that avoids social or political context.

If your goal is coaching, productivity, or performance enhancement.

Relational therapy focuses on what happens between people, especially when connection becomes tense, confusing, or fragile — including couples, partnerships, and poly-relational constellations.

People arrive here when conflicts repeat without resolution. When one person withdraws while the other pursues. When trust, safety, or desire feel unstable. When non-normative relationship structures lack supportive space. When earlier relational adaptations are being replayed in the present.

This work does not assume a single model of intimacy or partnership.

Difference, power, and context are treated as part of the relational field, not as problems to erase.

How this work differs Rather than locating the problem in one person, attention is given to patterns that form between people.

To unspoken agreements and expectations. To how emotions are regulated in relationship. To how past experiences shape present contact.

The intention is not harmony at any cost. It is clearer contact, increased agency, and less reactivity.

When this work is not appropriate Relational therapy here is not suitable in situations of ongoing abuse or coercion.

It is not a space to persuade or control another person. It requires willingness from all involved to engage in the process.

Alongside individual and relational work, I am developing group-based formats that are educational and experiential, rather than group therapy.

These formats are intended as workshops, not as ongoing therapeutic groups or clinical group treatment.

The focus of these workshops is on recognizing and understanding how queerphobia and minority stress become internalized over time.

This includes learning to notice how self-criticism, shame, hypervigilance, or disconnection often emerge not from personal failure, but from long-term adaptation to social context.

At this stage, workshops are envisioned in shorter, contained formats, such as single-session workshops lasting a few hours, or a small number of meetings spread over several weeks.

Over time, these formats may develop further, depending on how the work unfolds and what proves useful in practice.

All workshops are planned as online formats.

In addition, I am considering the possibility of an occasional online peer-support space — a non-therapeutic group setting where queer people can meet, reflect, and feel less alone.

This is exploratory, and any such format would be clearly defined and bounded.

Workshops and group offerings are announced separately when they are available.