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Individual Therapy

A place for queer people who learned to adapt and now want to relate differently to themselves.

This is individual therapeutic work for LGBTQIA+ people whose ways of coping were shaped by living in contexts that required constant adjustment, vigilance, or self-silencing.

Many people arrive here not because something is “wrong” with them, but because what once helped them stay connected or safe now comes with a cost — tension, withdrawal, self-criticism, or a sense of being present but not fully here.

This work offers space to slow that down and look at it together.

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01 focus

What this work focuses on

Individual therapy here is relational and queer-affirmative. It is interested in how patterns formed, not in fixing or correcting you.

We may stay with questions like:

  1. How minority stress and queerphobia become internalized.

  2. How shame, self-monitoring, or withdrawal once functioned as protection.

  3. How contact with others — and with yourself — became effortful or unsafe.

  4. How these patterns shape everyday choices and relationships.

The aim is not quick change, but increased awareness, stability, and the capacity to stay in contact without losing yourself.

This can include work with kink-affirming contexts and consensual power dynamics, approached relationally and without pathologizing.

02 approach

How I work

My approach is informed by:

Gestalt therapy
Schema-informed work
Emotion-Focused and relational perspectives

These frameworks help me stay close to lived experience, emotional processes, and relational dynamics — without reducing them to diagnoses or techniques.

The work unfolds at a pace that supports regulation, rather than intensity or pressure.

03 clarity

What this space is — and what it is not

This is therapeutic work, not coaching or skills training. It is not focused on performance, productivity, or “self-optimization.” I do not offer diagnoses or symptom treatment plans.

Instead, this is a space for careful, grounded exploration of how your history, context, and relationships shape the way you meet yourself and others today.

04 fit

For whom this may be helpful

This may fit if you recognize yourself in experiences such as:

  1. Holding yourself together, rather than living.

  2. A strong inner critic, chronic self-doubt, or persistent self-monitoring.

  3. Going quiet or withdrawing in relationships, even when closeness matters.

  4. Feeling out of place — including within queer spaces.

  5. Wanting a space that does not pathologize your experience.

You do not need to know exactly what you want to work on in advance. Orientation can happen together.