Couple & Poly Relationship Therapy
This work is for couples and poly relationships whose ways of relating have been formed under heteronormative, mononormative, or queerphobic conditions.
Difficulties here are not treated as personal failure or relational defect, but as responses to contexts that required adaptation, self-monitoring, or unequal negotiation of safety.
The focus is not on fixing a relationship, but on understanding how it is being lived.
What this work attends to
Relationship therapy here centers the relational field, not one person as the problem and not the relationship as something to be repaired.
We stay with questions such as how power, visibility, and safety are distributed, how difference is negotiated rather than erased, how closeness and distance are managed under pressure, and how conflict, silence, or withdrawal became protective.
This applies to couples and to poly or non-monogamous configurations, including constellations that do not fit normative models.
This may include relationships where intimacy involves consensual power exchange or kink. The work remains focused on consent, negotiation, and relational impact — not on defining or evaluating practices.
How I work
My work is informed by Gestalt therapy, Schema-informed perspectives, and Emotion-Focused and relational approaches.
These frameworks support attention to contact, emotional processes, and interactional patterns without assigning blame or reducing complexity to techniques or roles.
Sessions move at a pace that supports regulation and clarity, rather than urgency or performance.
What this space is — and what it is not
This is therapeutic work, not mediation, coaching, or crisis intervention.
It is not about deciding who is right, saving a relationship, or producing predefined outcomes.
It is a space to slow relational dynamics down and make sense of how people are meeting one another within the realities of their lives and contexts.
For whom this may be relevant
This work may be useful if your relationship feels strained by ongoing negotiation, if conflict or distance repeats without resolution, if queer or non-monogamous realities feel unsupported, or if you want a therapeutic space that does not privilege normative relationship models.
You do not need a shared goal to begin. Orientation can emerge through the work itself.